tag:dreamwidth.org,2009-05-09:318821Alternative parentingBecause it takes a village to raise a childAlternative Parenting2009-06-06T14:30:41Ztag:dreamwidth.org,2009-05-09:318821:3009justsurviveITs me:)2009-06-06T14:30:41Z2009-06-06T14:30:41Zpublic1Posted by: <span lj:user='justsurvive' style='white-space: nowrap;' class='ljuser'><a href='https://justsurvive.dreamwidth.org/profile'><img src='https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png' alt='[personal profile] ' width='17' height='17' style='vertical-align: text-bottom; border: 0; padding-right: 1px;' /></a><a href='https://justsurvive.dreamwidth.org/'><b>justsurvive</b></a></span><br /><br /><b>Name:</b> Jane<br /><b>Age:</b> 24<br /><b>Location:</b> portland oregon<br /><b>Occupation:</b>soon to be student(i'll be a midwife) currently a SAHM<br /><b>Kids:</b> 2.5(almost, the 25th, yes she was a christmas morning baby)yr old<br /><b>Natural birth:</b> i did. they didnt believe it was labor, i was 2 months early, they said it was just a bladder infectionand thats why i had pains. then they finally checked and they saw blonde hair crowning. but yes, all natural, no drugs and i had such a euphoria after even with the sadness of nicu and being worried about my baby. at least i was alert for it.(she spent 6 weeks in NICU).<br /><b>Breastfeeding:</b> 2.5 yrs now. im trying to night wean but during the day im still nursing on demand. <br /><b>Routines:</b> bedtime routine yes, it helps her sleep. in the morning we also try to eat and get outside, but it all depends on the day. i dont believe in strict schedules for her age<br /><b>Cloth Diapering:</b> yes. and im potty training her now so soon ill be done with the laundry! i hope*crosses fingers*<br /><b>Chemical Free:</b> i clean with vinegar and lemon juice and baking soda and such<br /><b>Elimination Communication:</b>that would have been nice<br /><b>Co-sleeping:</b> yes and shes a bed hog!!<br /><b>Crying:</b> she rarely has melt downs. i try to cuddle and help her but i dont give in to what she wants because i want her to learn, but i do try to comfort her. i hate the crying<br /><b>Baby wearing:</b> she LOVED her sling as a preemie it really helped with breastfeeding. i wore her till she was about 1.5yrs. she doesnt like to now.<br /><b>Education:</b> we read constantly. she loves her books. i talk to her a lot so she gets the language and she speaks in sentences. <br /><b>Discipline:</b>i dont give in to her, she learns not to do certain things. i re direct her instead of yelling or being harsh. no yelling or spanking<br /><b>Manifesto:</b> i like john rosemonds idea. put marriage/self first and kids second, it makes them more independent. i still attachment parent which he doesnt agree with, but he has great ideas for potty training and sleep training. and im following <a href="http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp">The Dr. Jay Gordon Method of Nightweaning!</a> mostly. except for 9pm instead of 11. i think 11 is way too late for babies to sleep. i need me time so i put her to bed at nine and crawl out later. anyways my methods are a mix of what i see my extended family do and all the reading from books i do.<br /><br /><br /><img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=altparenting&ditemid=3009" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/> commentstag:dreamwidth.org,2009-05-09:318821:1532brigidIntro post2009-05-15T16:38:31Z2009-05-15T16:38:31Zpublic3Posted by: <span lj:user='brigid' style='white-space: nowrap;' class='ljuser'><a href='https://brigid.dreamwidth.org/profile'><img src='https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png' alt='[personal profile] ' width='17' height='17' style='vertical-align: text-bottom; border: 0; padding-right: 1px;' /></a><a href='https://brigid.dreamwidth.org/'><b>brigid</b></a></span><br /><br />Hello. I'm Brigid and I'm 30 and recently had my first baby.<br /><br />I'm getting more and more frustrated with mainstream parenting and baby sites and blogs which assume that parents have more money than sense. Most baby things are incredibly and pointlessly expensive, and awfully gendered. This looks like a good and sensible place to get away from that mind set.<br /><br />I look forward to discussion on this community.<br /><br /><img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=altparenting&ditemid=1532" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/> commentstag:dreamwidth.org,2009-05-09:318821:460inspiral_roseWelcome!2009-05-09T04:22:50Z2009-05-09T06:43:24Zpublic0Posted by: <span lj:user='inspiral_rose' style='white-space: nowrap;' class='ljuser'><a href='https://inspiral-rose.dreamwidth.org/profile'><img src='https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png' alt='[personal profile] ' width='17' height='17' style='vertical-align: text-bottom; border: 0; padding-right: 1px;' /></a><a href='https://inspiral-rose.dreamwidth.org/'><b>inspiral_rose</b></a></span><br /><br />Hi all!<br /><br />I know that people have already created <span style='white-space: nowrap;'><a href='https://attachedparents.dreamwidth.org/profile'><img src='https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png' alt='[community profile] ' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: text-bottom; border: 0; padding-right: 1px;' /></a><a href='https://attachedparents.dreamwidth.org/'><b>attachedparents</b></a></span> and <span style='white-space: nowrap;'><a href='https://babywearing.dreamwidth.org/profile'><img src='https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png' alt='[community profile] ' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: text-bottom; border: 0; padding-right: 1px;' /></a><a href='https://babywearing.dreamwidth.org/'><b>babywearing</b></a></span> here but I have long felt the need for a more general parenting community for alternative parenting styles. <br /><br />I also wanted a space that was simultaneously for parents who are alternative (non-standard families, sub-culture folks, poly, queer, living in intentional communities) as much as for parents who practice alternative styles (attachment parenting, continuum parenting, unconditional parenting, montessori). I'm also hoping we'll achieve some gender balance -- most of these kinds of communities on other fora seem lopsided female to me. Where are all the awesome Dads interested in parenting?<br /><br />About me: I am a new Mum, with (currently) a 14-week-old daughter (they grow so fast!), living with my partner who plans to be a stay-at-home Dad. We're co-sleeping, babywearing, trying for as close to carbon neutral as we can get (second-hand everything and fairtrade/organic when it has to be new). We're also both poly and queer and a little kinky and unsure how to talk about that in most of the parents groups we're in in real life -- they have enough of a problem with our seemingly hippie insistence on all organic toys (how hard is it to find toys that aren't filled with polyester!?).<br /><br />Here's what I've written in the journal bio:<br /><br /><div style="margin-left: 40px;">This journal is designed to be an open forum for all styles of alternative or natural parenting. It doesn't espouse any particular style of parenting, but you're likely to encounter people practising attachment parenting, unconditional parenting, herbal remedies, co-sleeping, baby wearing and more.<br /><br />As we don't prescribe any particular method, members are asked to query others' choices with care, empathy and genuine interest. Thoughtless (kneejerk, rabid) criticism, trolling, and personal insults are all causes for banning with the big ban hammer.<br /><br />Please post an intro entry when you join.<br /><br />Your moderator is <span style='white-space: nowrap;'><a href='https://inspiral-rose.dreamwidth.org/profile'><img src='https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png' alt='[personal profile] ' width='17' height='17' style='vertical-align: text-bottom; border: 0; padding-right: 1px;' /></a><a href='https://inspiral-rose.dreamwidth.org/'><b>inspiral_rose</b></a></span> . I'm in the Southern hemisphere... if there are any Northern hemisphere folks who want to be a co-moderator, let me know!<br /> </div>Look forward to reading your stories!<br /><br /><br /><br /><img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=altparenting&ditemid=460" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/> comments