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May. 10th, 2009 09:09 pm
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I'm not that unconventional in the conventional way. I'm not gay or poly. I'm not especially into baby wearing.

But I've been seen as a bit different since I had my first child nearly 21 years ago when I was 19. My other children are 18, 16 and 3 1/2. My eldest daughter is gay.

I've always used cloth nappies (back then most people did, weird huh?), my children shared our bed because I like my sleep and I can breastfeed lying down. I have breastfed all my children until they were at least 2, some 3 1/2, because it's easier that way, I don't have to remember to bring snacks.

My childcare influences are from books I read when I was 16 - Children on the Hill and Tomorrow's Child by Juni Morosi.  I also read Summerhill.  When I was pregnant I read a book dedicated to breastfeeding, I think it was by Sheila Kitzinger, and after I had children I read The Secret of Happy Children

While I like the possibilities available from subscribing to these theories, I'm also aware that they rely quite strongly on somebody, usually the mother, subjugating her needs for the needs of the child.  That doesn't work for me.  I studied for my engineering degree while my three children were small and now I work full-time while my husband stays home with his first child.

My older children attended a Steiner School except for the middle one who needed something different.  Rose currently attends a Steiner kindergarten.  She also attends a bilingual mainstream kinder so she will meet and socialise with children from a wider community.

These days I work on the theory that a happy child is a child with happy parents.  If it makes me happy/comfortable, I'll probably do it.  OTOH I also have a better idea of the long term payoff of being a bit uncomfortable now.  Rose has a much stricter set of boundaries than her older siblings did.
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